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At the moment, it seems most people either love or hate Chick-Fil-A. I have no feelings about Chick-Fil-A save that they offer an overpriced sandwich, and that overcharging has had implications over the course of Judeo-Christian eras. But that’s their problem not mine.

At the moment, it seems most either love Ryan Lochte or loathe him. He’s not Michael Phelps. In fact, he’s beaten Michael Phelps– who needed to be beaten because he smoked or smokes (choose the suffix of your choice) marijuana– so you love him. Or, he choked in a relay the US had in their back pocket, so you’re ticked he still gets all the hype. He’s in the process of vindicating himself but either way most either love him or hate him for some reason.

And then there’s President Obama. I still believe it’s right to refer to the man as “President.” People on the right who simply refer to him as “Obama” really frustrate me, BTW. Whether you like it or not, he’s the sitting President and he deserves respect. I didn’t vote for him, but then again I didn’t vote for the other guy either. I guess that puts me somewhere in the middle but I still don’t care. In politics, it will always be “the lesser of two evils.” I know it. I accept it. But I don’t think most people think like me. Most, whether they voted for him or not either love him or hate him.

Apparently there’s a need for polarization. People need to be at the extremes. Of course this is so, without polarization there’s little room for conflict, and without conflict life would be peaceful… err…boring.

Living at an extreme means you’re pretty stinkin’ close to an edge. If not careful, you’re going to fall off. That would be unfortunate. It’s your risk to take, but don’t cry when you fall off. You’ll only be getting what you deserve. So be careful, your lust for an opponent may push you over the edge.

I’ve come to prefer dealing with people who aren’t living at the extremes. They are more reasonable. They think about themselves, others, and how their actions my permeate the ever-impressive world around them.There’s little doubt in my mind that the world would would be a better place without such polarization. Some might need it but not me.

 

 

The Missing Element

douglasryoung —  February 7, 2012 — 1 Comment

You ready for a laugh?

I once took a home economics class in high school. I think I did it because I figured there would be a lot of girls in the class, but it also could have been because I had little hopes that I’d find a female who would help take care of me. Regardless, I was either shallow or desperate, and I’m not certain which one was more telling. Continue Reading…

Why I Seek Peace…

douglasryoung —  November 22, 2011 — 2 Comments

People, especially my friends, often chuckle when they think of me having a Master’s Degree in Conflict Resolution. It’s not because they think it’s a silly degree, but rather because I tend to be rather argumentative and am notorious for liking to be in the middle of conflict. The notion of me pursuing peace seems paradoxical.

My friend and mentor, Joey Cope, a lawyer and mediator, suggested to me that many conflict-oriented people are looking towards degrees like the one I got from ACU because they are tired of the conflict into which they are mired and are looking to find solutions for resolving it. He definitely had me pegged!

Why else would I spend two years, and a lot of money, pursuing such? I can promise you it wasn’t because I was bored!

Some people just love to be generators of conflict. They live for it. It’s their element. But it is, speaking from personal experience, a painful way to live.

That degree didn’t instantaneously change me. I still struggle. I still need to keep my mouth shut, instead of offering my unsolicited opinions to others on things not related to me. I get myself into trouble that way. But my recognition and admission of it, as well as my intentional movement away from such, is a sign that I’m headed in the right direction.

Want to join me?

Why wait?

douglasryoung —  November 9, 2011 — 2 Comments

I think it’s funny that people will wait until New Years to begin working on resolutions. In fact, given the approach of so many towards them, myself included, I find it really difficult to even call them resolutions.

In fact, the AHD defines resolution as “firm determination.” But how many people really stick with them? How many of us actually get through January with that diet or work-out regimen?

In fact, I think it’s silly to know there is something we ought to do now but put it off until later. Of course, I get why people want to put off the diet until January. There’s simply too much junk that we don’t want to miss out on between Thanksgiving and Christmas! But I think such a concession is incredibly revealing, and I’ll let you make the inference.

Why wait? We shouldn’t. If there is something that needs tweaking in our lives, regardless of what it might be, real commitment is exhibited through tackling it ASAP, not when it becomes significantly more convenient.

Quit waiting to do tomorrow, next week, next month, or next year, what you know you need to do now! Why wait?

Starting Over

douglasryoung —  November 4, 2011 — 2 Comments

There’s a cool sensation that comes with starting over. Sadly, it quickly wanes.

Proof?

Look at how many people start diets and exercise regimens to which they never adhere.

Thank God you can start over. But people who see it that way tend to use starting over as a crutch. Continue Reading…